“WHY can’t my friends and family see who I am NOW?!” you think, as *another* comment

gets made at the cookout about who you used to be, completely mis-reading you…

It feels like no one really knows you,

they’re just grasping at things that they

u s e d to know about you,

making assumptions

and honestly triggering you

into more frustration & self-doubt about your life & career than you’d like to admit

going to the bathroom again so you can wipe another round of stupid tears off your face.

“Why am I not over this by now?” you think.

“It’s so dumb. Will it ever stop?”

First of all, it’s not dumb.

A LOT of people have a hard time re-entering the energetic field

of their family unit (in Human Design we call this a penta,

and it’s the energy that takes over when a family gets together,

reinforcing your former role within the family dynamic)

To some degree, we ALL face this energy field that coalesces out of the family unit…

But it feels like more than that

For you, it’s not just something you can roll your eyes at

and move along from.

It’s really holding you back

from f u l l y e m b o d y i n g

the level of artistry and leadership

in your writing, creative career or online business

that you know you need to share & exude

if you’re going to reach your cash flow + impact goals.

When dynamics with your family are keeping you stuck like this,

it’s often because there are both energetic, human + soul level issues playing out

That it would be endlessly helpful for you to f u l l y u n d e r s t a n d

& f u l l y s h i f t.

Because if you’re one of the souls that came here to heal everything

(yes, everything )

WHILE you self-actualize your creative & business goals as an artist, writer, actor or entrepreneur…

& WHILE living an emotionally regulated & peaceful life…

Then you’re most likely going to stay stuck until you have the insights, healings & transformations YOU need to move through this with ease & grace.

So what do you do about it? What do you do when it feels like everyone is only seeing the old you and not who you’ve become (never mind where you want to go in your career!)

In my experience, there are often MULTIPLE things going on…

but here’s an example I can give you to get started.

One of the things that comes up with my clients a lot are VOWS. These are unconscious energetic decisions that get made in an emotionally charged time that then shape & limit our reality.

Imagine this:

What if…

your parents made a VOW to ‘never forget who you were as a child’

They did this unconsciously, as most vows are made….

and now it’s the lens through which they CANNOT HELP

but see you through.

They aren’t *trying* to do this, it’s just that they can’t help themselves

Because usually, vows get made as an emotionally charged OVERCORRECTION

Which means, in this case,

this vow to never forget who you were as a child…

is supercharged by both love & guilt.

Guilt when they realized at some point

that they had missed out on you.

That they weren’t present enough as they should have been

because they were focused on their own problems…

and they have regrets.

Thus, the vow got made without them even knowing it.

Because vows feel easier than the alternative,

which is actually fully PROCESSING and FEELING both their guilt at themselves

and their love for you

– something that a lot of older generations seem to have a tough time with

(Or, to look at it compassionately, simply never had the knowledge & resources for).

Of course, your scenario could be different…it could be an overbearing parent

who made this vow unconsciously

because they lost themselves and their identity in the parenting of you….and they want to hold ONTO that

rather than face & feel the terrifying next steps of activating their own lives & passions after so many years of being ‘mom.’

Whatever the case, I’ve found in my work with clients that this level of understanding

about the family dynamics they find themselves in

is DEEPLY HEALING,

DEEPLY R E V E A L I N G

& has the power to get you out of the shame or anxiety loop you’ve been spinning in

as we shift your relationship to this pattern in your parents (*sometimes* even dismantling the vow completely, because when YOU shift, THEY CAN SHIFT!! It’s awesome.)

After uncovering and working through any vows, soul contracts or agreements, we would also look at the soul purpose of this pattern as well as the *frequency* of your actions

and make the necessary tweaks & embodiment shifts

to allow you to fully transcend familial limitations

& become the master of your public-facing identity.

You would finally feel FREE to be yourself

& your friends, family, audience & clients would see and recognize the real you too,

the undeniably powerful one who cannot be stopped cause she’s on fire, awake & alive to the deepest desires of her soul and making big things happen in the world.

It’s freaking awesome.

I specialize in helping creatives, artists and entrepreneurs

untangle root self-limiting patterns & negative repetitive cycles

In my ~6-month program “AHHH, FINALLY”

(which uses my signature process Wheel Work™, plus

Human Design, astrology, energy work & embodiment)

to go from triggered, secretly insecure and hiding from your family

to sharing the FULLNESS of your artistry & leadership

being the person you were A L W A Y S meant to be,

changing lives & feeling more fulfilled & truly SEEN & respected than ever.)

You CAN transcend this situation with your family that making you sad & holding back your career.

If this sounds interesting to you, DM me on messenger or IG “Wheel Work” to start the conversation.

I’ll give you space to share where you’re at

see if we align and then set up a free consultation to go deeper together

to see if my approach to healing, transformation & true, spiritually minded self-actualization

is right for you.

(Our conversations are confidential, kind & deeply transformative. I’m a relationship builder & will never pressure you into something that isn’t right, but I will tell you if I think this is the approach you’ve been missing after we talk )

I usually only have a few spaces open at any given time, so make your move.